On bad advice
Mar. 24th, 2026 12:51 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
posicScott D. Clary writes in Facebook -- https://www.facebook.com/scottdclarypage/posts/pfbid0ijBMWeYUvvnqd8HnyHeh77xsErqZMEZVc3W7STmm3gKT6H5CfdqXye6vjYvke2Ghl :
The reason people give bad advice isn't that they're wrong about the facts. It's that they are solving the problem they had, not the problem you have. The advice is accurate for a situation that isn't yours. The trick is knowing whose experience actually maps to where you are.
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More precisely, almost all of the unrequested advice has been irrelevant for the aims that I pursue in my life. The most important part of one's "situation" is not where one is, it is where one wants to be. This, in my case, almost nobody was ever able or interested to understand.
The reason people give bad advice isn't that they're wrong about the facts. It's that they are solving the problem they had, not the problem you have. The advice is accurate for a situation that isn't yours. The trick is knowing whose experience actually maps to where you are.
***
More precisely, almost all of the unrequested advice has been irrelevant for the aims that I pursue in my life. The most important part of one's "situation" is not where one is, it is where one wants to be. This, in my case, almost nobody was ever able or interested to understand.
