On unhappiness as a story

Scott D. Clary writes in Facebook -- https://www.facebook.com/scottdclarypage/posts/pfbid0FHKKDdDh7SNHQWicNPiQJUDbvSyqbUhRpKJ6zgd9bwn73X4Ph4C6wTGR6Ce1YdFul :

Most unhappiness is not about what's actually missing. It's about the story you're telling about what's missing. Two people in the same situation can experience it completely differently based on the meaning they're giving it. The situation is fixed. The interpretation is negotiable.

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No, unhappiness is not about a story you are telling. It is about the gap between the situation and the person's actual preferences and life goals.

The preferences and life goals vary from person to person, and they are not really negotiable. One can change the story one is telling and start pretending to be happy, but it does not make one happy.

No, the situation is not fixed. Your sense of unhappiness stimulates you to work hard and take risks in order to change the situation and replace it with one that would better align with your preferences and life goals.

Четырнадцать лет назад: Тоже образчик (рецензирования)

https://posic.dreamwidth.org/737999.html

Постинг в Фейбсуке от того же дня (23 февраля 2012) -- https://www.facebook.com/posic/posts/pfbid02BaPaPZ14eWVhYHLkhyuPMehv3Dr7rPwuDmHpULWT8byWpewu2T5JbAezUpqYeRTol :

"Reading the referee's report received from Crelle. The reviewer writes that he does not understand how does a certain assertion of mine follow, adds "(sorry, I am certainly being stupid)" in parentheses, and immediately proceeds to point out, right in the next phrase, that I write that a certain vector subspace does not intersect another, while in fact, I surely mean that they only intersect at 0."

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Из ответа на е-мейл от редактора Crelle, от 16 августа 2023 -- https://posic.dreamwidth.org/2838993.html :

"More than ten years have passed, but I still remember this detail. All I can say now is that, with any refereeing requests you may have presently or in the future, you may want to contact mathematicians capable of making a more careful distinction between nonintersecting vector subspaces and vector subspaces that only intersect at 0."