On geography
Mar. 4th, 2026 05:47 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
posicScott D. Clary writes in Facebook -- https://www.facebook.com/scottdclarypage/posts/pfbid02g8EohDyAfMYjB87wnhnKp8RFVGgzmdpboEJRSB5sbhAyZxi29NjkUGLbzPSt9uiMl :
Most people's idea of a fresh start is changing their environment while keeping their habits. It doesn't work. The habits follow you. The new city, the new job, the new relationship, none of it sticks if the underlying patterns don't change. The geography is never the problem.
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I changed my environment in 2014-18 while keeping my habits, and it worked. The new country, the new city, the new job. The same contramodules and contraherent cosheaves, the same fierce independence, the same extreme nonconformism, the same disregard for career considerations, the same workaholic lifestyle. But a much more pleasant life.
The geography was the problem.
The patterns of other people's behavior towards me had to change in order to resolve my problems. And contrary to the fashionable sloppy thinking, the people in different geographical locations are not the same.
Most people's idea of a fresh start is changing their environment while keeping their habits. It doesn't work. The habits follow you. The new city, the new job, the new relationship, none of it sticks if the underlying patterns don't change. The geography is never the problem.
***
I changed my environment in 2014-18 while keeping my habits, and it worked. The new country, the new city, the new job. The same contramodules and contraherent cosheaves, the same fierce independence, the same extreme nonconformism, the same disregard for career considerations, the same workaholic lifestyle. But a much more pleasant life.
The geography was the problem.
The patterns of other people's behavior towards me had to change in order to resolve my problems. And contrary to the fashionable sloppy thinking, the people in different geographical locations are not the same.
